Hum ladkewale hain

“Of course we can “allow” the bride to work – as long as she manages home and doesn’t outshine our son.”

– a statement from the “ladkewale” (boy’s side) at a recent family event where the prospective bride and groom-to-be meet each other’s families.

I was awestruck and infuriated, almost in disbelief.

Somehow even in 2024, some ‘ladkewale’ still make statements like these and carry a sense of entitlement. A sense of ego, of being “more”, they immediately give themselves the “upper hand”. In the 1000 Women Leaders Programs, we talk a lot about equity—whether at work or home. And it’s important to question even traditions that don’t treat everyone equally.

Let’s encourage new traditions at home and work where being ‘ladkewale’ or ‘ladkiwale’ isn’t about being in charge. Traditions that encourage both sides spending equally on the wedding, on living as equals, even making equal compromises!! And I’m sure that will eventually lead to more equal workplaces as well.

As already evident, I am quite passionate about the cause of gender equality and better female representation at work:)

I’m sure we can do better together!